I had several conversations with my daughter-in-law that week. We discussed my recent hospitalization, birthday parties and an upcoming evaluation for one of the girls. I closed with the usual "Tell my son I love him". Not once did she let on there was anything unusual going on.
Towards the end of the week I received a message from my other d/l. "Please tell me that wasn't your other son I just saw on the news!". I had no idea what she was talking about and ran to the computer to Google his name. It didn't take long to find what I was looking for... my son was in jail & had been for a few days. The charge was child molestation!
I immediately called his wife. She began to attempt more mundane conversation but I interrupted and asked "Where is my son?!". "In jail," she said with aggression in her voice. Now the truth was out she gave every indication she was ready to do battle about it. "Why didn't you tell me?' I asked. "I was afraid you'd have a heart attack" was her response. Yeah, right, like I'm less likely to have a heart attack over this if I find out from another family member my son has been in jail for days and I wasn't even aware of it.
As the story unfolds it turns out his wife is the person who went to the police. She never discussed this with her husband. She never questioned him. Instead she plotted out her strategy over a period of three days. She had the children go off to school like any other day. Around the time stay-at-home dad Dave was getting frantic because his children were late coming home from school the police showed up.
Dave was taken from his home wearing nothing but shorts and t-shirt on a cold December day and thrown in jail. He was not allowed to put on a pair of pants or grab a coat. He wasn't permitted to grab his wallet where he kept important phone numbers. He was still concerned where his children were and had no idea why he was being arrested.
Of all the men in the world this one is a top contender for the man least likely to commit such a heinous act. I know, I know, I'm a mother and mothers often are in denial about their children. I assure you, I'm not one of those mothers! I'm well aware of my children's failings. My son has a laundry list of faults, but the sexual abuse of a minor female would never make that list.
Dave was always overprotective of young girls. We had a family member who had been molested by a caretaker and his own wife had been molested by her father. Dave has always been hypersensitive to this issue. He is offended by scantily clad girls. He has the old-fashioned attitude of "leave something to the imagination".
Unfortunately, in modern society justice is often more about who has enough money to pay for a team of attorneys than it is about innocence and guilt. Where did the adage "innocent until proven guilty" come from anyway? What a crock... It's more like guilty unless you can afford to pay to prove your innocence